We form habits over long period of times. Some habits such as walking and talking start as toddlers and we just build and build. So our vocabulary and how we use it stems from various influences in life. It’s the stuff we pick up at school, when we start work, from our parents, siblings, friends, even online now. It’s so much a habit have you ever asked yourself how often you stop and listen to the meaning of what you say.
THINK – along with perhaps and maybe – are words that we use as permission to fail. They are self doubting words and weaken your message. If someone asked if you could meet a deadline on a work task, how often would you say “I think I can achieve that!” you are basically giving yourself permission to fail. This self debt sets a seed and you are more likely to fail as a consequence.
Much better that you say “I can achieve that” – there’s always room for negotiation later if the task becomes more complex than first envisaged.
ONLY – How many times have you rung someone to go “It’s only me”. Only is a very belittling word and by using it in this way you are assuming a low self importance that the other person will pick up on sub-consciously. Instead hold your head high and go “Hello It’s (your name). People will respect you more for it.
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It’s another small step in learning to love yourself and becoming empowered.
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