We can be so busy focused on what matters to other people that we sometimes forget to love yourselves and that’s when we lose self esteem and/or confidence.
Yet loving ourselves is incredibly easy to do. It always comes down to one starting point – and that’s having high expectations of ourselves, often higher than we would have of others.
Practice these 5 simple steps and feel so much better about yourself.
- Stop seeking perfection. No one is perfect so why do you expect yourself to be. Having high standards is great, however not achieving perfection does not equate to failure. Take time to consider what realistic expectations are and be proud of what you achieve.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone has different strengths, know what yours are and remember them when you compare yourself to others. Simply comparing yourself around the things you don’t have can lead to you feeling very dissatisfied, whether its attributes or material things. And be grateful for what you do have.
- Be true to yourself. Stop loving the person you’re trying to be. Pretending to be someone we’re not is only setting ourselves up for failure. Learn who you really are and accept yourself as being great, courageous and amazing in your own way.
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- Look beyond material items. Of course we want lovely things, but challenge this thinking, what do you really truly want? Success? acceptance? power? and look at the ways in which you have this already.
- Remember it’s one small step. Learning to love yourself won’t happen overnight. Like everything it takes time and practice to achieve. Don’t be hard on yourself if you forget one day and revert to old habits. Take some time out of your day to go back through the steps and congratulate yourself for what you have achieved.
If your self esteem needs a little bit of tlc, life coaching is a great way to start, call Carolyn today on 07714 216388 to book your free 45 minute kick start session.
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