I’m always right at least according to hubby. I’ve spent years educating him that way. And proving it too.
If I look back it started when a teacher at school explained that he only ever placed a bet with someone when he knew he was right and would win.
I was quick to realise that if I only strongly stated my case when I knew I was right I would always be right and the competitive part of me like that idea. It meant I could win arguments more often and know when to walk away from them.
At what point this kind of thinking gets out of hand I’m not sure, but I now hold a much stronger desire to always be right, its built up over the years and now I feel as though I lose face if I’m wrong.
Accepting that its OK to be wrong is quite a change in thinking for me, however its one that I need to do. Needing to always be right can put a huge amount of pressure on us, when we’re already in busy worlds leading busy lives. And lets face it, if I’m wrong occasionally then someone is actually right in that instance and that’s OK – in fact its a bit of a win/win.
So have a bit of a think. What is it that you do that just puts unnecessary pressure on you? Please share your thoughts.
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Actually in my role as a coach I have to put aside any feelings of being right or wrong and accept my client’s views of their world. So I’ve had plenty of practice – its just a matter of transferring this to my personal life. If you need help with something that holds you back, give me a call on 07714 216388 for a no obligation chat.
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Feeling that I don’t have to be perfect all of the time and knowing that to be at fault is to be human and it is healthy to admit that.
Only today I pointed out to somebody who always seems to find fault with everybody else that they have their own faults too and they don’t like it so much when they are pointed out to them. So if they don’t want me pointing out their faults all the time then they shouldn’t be pointing out mine either!
They soon wound their neck in…
Would have liked to have been a fly on the wall for that one. Have a great weekend……