A few weeks ago I wrote about finding your inner child. This was about rediscovering your creative or sporty side or whatever you need to do to relax. In this post we’re going to look at that childhood temper and determination.
How often did you drive your mother to distraction? No matter what she said or did, you simply dug your heals in and shouted “NO!”
I remember doing it. Saying “no” was so much easier than agreeing to do the thing I didn’t want to do. Whether it was taking the dog for a walk or wearing a particular dress. “No! no! no!”
It seems so much harder to say now. If I say “No” people want a reason, an excuse why I wouldn’t want to help them. So isn’t it easier just to give in and say “Yes!”
In the short term – YES!
But really I need to examine the longer term outcomes of saying “Yes”. “Yes” means I put aside my task, maybe leave myself short of time to hit a deadline or achieve a goal. That can make me at the least a little grumpy, but worse I can start to hold a grudge, get in trouble at work or resent the person I offered to help. It can lead to anxiety or stress and a lack of confidence. None of these leave my mindset in a great place.
So next time I’m asked to do something, I’m going to stop, pause and think before I agree – will you?
Carolyn Trafford is a career strategy coach. Not sure what this means or how it could help you? No problem. Give Carolyn a call on 07714 216388 and book your FREE 30 minute discovery session NOW.
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