“The biggest lie I tell is the one I tell myself everyday – I am inferior to others” – Carolyn Trafford
Hands up if this rings true with you. I’ve stopped for a moment to question why I do it. What point does it serve to continually compare ourselves with others and then only conclude where we are inferior. We were not born with a self destruct button!!
It is this type of negative, destructive action that if used repeatedly damages self confidence, self esteem and can leave us struggling to be someone else. A role that we can not naturally fit into.
For years as I was growing up I have labelled myself “not as good as…..”, “not as pretty as…..” but never “better than” because we are taught that it is not nice to be conceited. Yet these thoughts, once they are ingrained stay with us until we take conscious action to change our thinking.
Stop and think for a moment, what phrases you’re currently using to describe yourself. Are they having a positive effect on you? What terms would you prefer to use?
It is possible to change this type of negative thinking – it just takes practice.
So simply take 5 minutes now to think about yourself in positive terms. What do you like about yourself? What is your best feature? What are you really good at?
- Take time to write these down in a special notepad – I call it a “True to Me” journal
- Take 5 minutes at the end of everyday and aim to note down 3 great things you’ve done or achieved.
- Next time you find yourself comparing yourself less favourable to someone else, get out your “true to me” journal and choose something more positive to call yourself.
Keeping and using a “True to Me” journal is just one of the techniques I use with clients requiring some help to increase their confidence and can be a real boost. If you need more help then please get in touch with me on 07714 216388 to discuss how I can help you further.
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